You don’t have to kill yourself to live well.

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I’m exhauseted. I’ve been spending my days working, my mind focuseed on the task ahead. I’ve become so good at it that sometimes the task is all I see until my work day is done. Then I get in my car, hop onto the freeway where all I see is the road ahead. By the time I get home, I’m too tired to think about anything.

I have a dull ache behind my eyes, an uncomfortable feeling that life — my life — is slipping away. …


Stop saying how the relationship should be — try responding as if it were already there.

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First, a story.

A swami friend of mine likes to tell a story about an encounter that happened in his youth on a crowded bus in India — a story about something that could have gone horribly wrong, but didn’t.

The facts of the story: two men are sitting on a bus. One is smoking. The other is not. The non-smoking man does not want to inhale the smoke.

The swami does not want to cause trouble, so he takes his orange scarf and…


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“As we work to create light for others, we naturally light our own way.” ― Mary Anne Radmacher

I am writing this on my balcony while the world around me slows down. My country is in a state of emergency, and people are slowly coming to the understanding that life as we knew it is in the midst of radical change.

But it doesn’t feel like it. The air outside smells sweet. The sun warms my skin. Traffic has slowed down to what it was like thirty years ago. I hear music wafting from various spots around the neighbourhood. It’s…


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#1 Deepak Chopra on choice:

No matter what the situation, remind yourself “I have a choice.”

Deepak Chopra —

#2 Wayne Dyer on how perception impacts your reality:

If you believe it will work out…you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you’ll see obstacles.

— Wayne Dyer —

#3 Oprah on opportunity

“You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”
— Oprah Winfrey —

#4 Mooji on how thoughts don’t have to control us

No thought has any power. You have power. And when you identify and believe in the thought you give power to the thought.

— Mooji —

#5 Byron Katie on learning from stressful situations

“ Stress is an alarm clock that lets you know you’re attached to something not true for you”

— Byron Katie —

#6 Deepak Chopra on biohacking your brain


So much to change, so little time.

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A colleague of mine keeps the department office stocked with everything decadent — chocolate, donuts, name it. He brings it.

It all ends up on my desk. Where I try, with varying amounts of success, not to indulge.

Today, this same colleague shocked me.

I walked up to him with a tray of sugar cookies my husband had baked from scratch last night, and he said, “No, thanks.”

“No?” I must have looked dumbfounded because he laughed.

He said, “I want to be the 7%”.

I blinked, still holding my tray of sugar…


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This is the advice I wish someone had given me.

When I first started work, I was so happy to have a job it didn’t even occur to me that I could make changes. I took what was offered and, if it didn’t suit me, grumbled about it afterward. Or quit.

The same thing went with relationships. Early me was just so happy to be in a relationship, it didn’t even occur to me to negotiate to get the kind of relationship I wanted.

And don’t even get me started about family.

In all of the major areas of my…


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To a trained eye, the inner workings of the body are as obvious as the colour of your hair.

At the gym this afternoon, everyone was talking about the woman who found out her boyfriend was cheating because his fit bit, synced with hers in a moment of early relationship optimism, showed a pattern of an elevated heart rate at four in the morning.

Unfortunately for the couple, he hadn’t started an early morning exercise habit, at least not the kind of exercise that he likely bought the fit bit for.

He was outed by technology.

But the art to…


Remember when they took your phone? They were right.

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Those teachers — the ones you hated, the ones you loved. What they all had in common was that they knew something you didn’t. Who knew?

And what you could have learned could change your life.

Here’s 11 concepts your old teachers all wanted you to learn:

1. A clear environment creates space for the mind.

Give your mind a quiet place.

Remember your teacher telling you to make sure you had a quiet place to do your homework, and to do your work there every day? This is the magic of repetition and place. …


I’m kidding.

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1. Weight

Books are heavy. Snap chat can fit in the palm of your hand. Your back pocket, your friend’s pocket, and in the hand of an anonymous stranger.

2. Sex

Books are sexy, but mostly to nerdalicious* introverts on date-nights with their librarian, the Cat. Snapchat, on the other hand is literally dripping with sex-appeal, and steamy stories from friends who do things on Friday nights, things involving magical elixirs, scantily clad bodies, and evenings that don’t start with and end with power struggle staring contests with a feline frien-emy.

3. Popularity

Books cause you to think. Thinking is bad for your mental…


2019 WRITING CHALLENGE

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Let’s be honest.

If I’m confessing, it’s going to be a long night. I hope you’ve got a glass of wine and some fluffy slippers.

Because the rules I love to break are most of them.

If writing is a bridge to another consciousness, then the rules one breaks should also bring a kind of evocative power with them.

I know that was unclear. I wrote that sentence because I thought it would make me look smarter. When I’m writing academic papers, I sacrifice clarity and simplicity (one of my rules) for verbosity and vocabulary. …

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